Burying a child

It's one of the hardest things to have to bury your child. It feels like it goes against the natural order of things. It can be hard to find items that suit a young life being cut short and help you to truly remember the spirit of the child you are burying. This site has a collection of ideas and thoughts that can be used when coming up with memorial services that celebrate the short life and personality of your child. It can be a useful resource for family, communities or schools plan sympathetic funeral services for children and their loved one.

Two Facts About Funeral Preparations That Might Surprise You


Here are two facts about funeral preparations that might surprise you.

The people who knew the deceased best do not necessarily have to handle all of the preparations

It's commonly assumed that the people who knew the deceased best, such as their partner or immediate family members are responsible for handling the funeral preparations and that no-one else is allowed to be involved in this process. However, whilst it's definitely more common for a deceased person's spouse, adult children or parents to take care of things like the ordering of the casket and its flower spray, booking the chapel and hiring a clergyperson, there are many situations in which it is either necessary or easier for someone who didn't know the deceased particularly well to do these things.

For example, if the death was the result of a major accident that involved the family members of the deceased and left these people seriously injured, then it might not be practical for them to call caterers, choose a gravestone design or write a eulogy, due to how unwell they are. In this situation, they may outsource this job to an event planner who could work alongside the funeral home staff to prepare for the funeral. Alternatively, they may ask a distant relative, whom they know to be trustworthy but who never met the deceased, to take care of the bigger preparations so that they, the immediate family, only have to take care of the easier, quicker tasks.

Making the preparations for a funeral does not have to be very complicated

Many people are convinced that funeral preparations are unavoidably difficult and complicated and that those who have to make them need to make countless decisions, spend a fortune and liaise with dozens of people (like religious leaders, caterers, etc.) to make the funeral happen. It might surprise you to know that the funeral preparations be as simple or as complex as the organiser wants them to be. If a person wants a truly low-cost, straightforward funeral, they can do this by selecting one of the funeral home's most affordable funeral packages and then not making any requests for customisations to, for example, the casket or the flower arrangements (which would take time and make the package more expensive). They can simplify it even further by providing shop-bought cake and sandwiches for the post-funeral buffet instead of having a catered meal and by only inviting a few people to the service.


10 March 2021