Burying a child

It's one of the hardest things to have to bury your child. It feels like it goes against the natural order of things. It can be hard to find items that suit a young life being cut short and help you to truly remember the spirit of the child you are burying. This site has a collection of ideas and thoughts that can be used when coming up with memorial services that celebrate the short life and personality of your child. It can be a useful resource for family, communities or schools plan sympathetic funeral services for children and their loved one.

Two steps to take if you decide to have a cremation instead of a burial at the last minute


If after arranging the burial of a relative, you realise that this was the wrong decision and that you would like to have your loved one cremated instead, here are the actions you can take to resolve this issue.

Work with the funeral home to cancel the burial-related services

First and foremost, you must either visit or phone the funeral home who helped you to arrange the burial and ask them for assistance with cancelling the services related to this burial. For example, if you will be taking the traditional route of scattering the ashes instead of burying them, then you will need to notify the cemetery manager and tell them that you no longer require the burial plot that was chosen and dug for the deceased's remains. You may also need to let the company from whom you ordered the person's gravestone know that you wish to cancel the production of this object. If you have the funeral home's staff do these things on your behalf, they may be able to liaise with these business owners and find a way to retrieve some or all of the deposits that you paid.

Secondly, if the funeral home has not yet begun to embalm the deceased, you can also cancel this, as remains that are going to be cremated do not need to be embalmed.

You will probably still need to use many of the other funeral-related services that you have already arranged; however, you may have to update those who will be providing these services about your change of plan. You may, for instance, need to inform those who were invited to the burial, including the celebrant and any musicians you hired, that they will need to come to the crematorium instead.

Call one of the local crematorium funeral directors

After you have taken the above-mentioned steps, you must call a crematorium funeral director and allow them to assist you with the arrangement of this last-minute cremation. This professional can help you with setting up the area inside the crematorium where you want the service to occur before the cremation.

They can also work with the funeral home who was initially organising the burial and ensure that the remains are in a casket that is appropriate for cremation (i.e., one that is free from metal components and that does not feature toxic chemicals). If the casket is unsuitable, they will help you to pick another one that can be safely cremated.

Additionally, if originally, the funeral home was going to use their hearse to transport your relative's remains to the cemetery, the crematorium funeral director may instead offer to collect them. If you have had to use a new casket, they can bring this with them in their hearse to the funeral home, transfer the remains to this new receptacle and then drive them to the crematorium where they will be cremated.


11 June 2020